Identify Yourself

What is our fascination with identity? Is it one of the major things we need to justify ourselves before we begin to try and relate to others? These are some heavy hitting questions I've battled with for maybe a couple years, and although I don't have a definite answer.. I've learned to identify (cheesy I know) one that seems suitable.. for me at least. First and foremost.. what makes up our identity? Overall, I've decided that we need not be defined. Our fascination seems to occur most with those who have embraced this, which is why I believe that by trying to define ourselves, we hinder true social and intrapersonal growth. Basically we sell ourselves short of who we are. So how do we do this? I believe that we must accept that even though we do have an identity, it cannot be classified and is an ever changing and evolving element to who we are as people. Once we really focus on embracing this, we forget about all the lines we drew withing ourselves and henceforth begin to love ourselves not for what we think we've created.. but for what we actually are. Its taken quite awhile to come to this conclusion and life philosophy. It started for me when I really began to disslike labels, particularly in middle school. I was neither a prep nor a goth.. but I had friends in both groups. Therefore unbenounced to others.. I gave myself the term 'floater.' What's so bad about being a floater? Nothing really, until I realized that I used it to make myself different from others. I used it to differentiate everything I thought I was from everyone else. I took that one little word to an extreme. This probably doesn't happen with everyone.. but I feel that it definitly does happen. More so with words we think are positive. When you were little, odds are that you did some sort of anagram where your name stood for words that describe you. That's where it starts. We are taught to describe ourselves, create ourselves, define ourselves, but by what? Our personallities? Our material possesions? Our friends? Our morals? Our values? And the worst part about this whole system is that we use it not just on ourselves, but our peers as well.

"That girl is too nice, she must be a goody two shoes."
"Her purse cost a ton of money, she must be stuck up."

We use a rule against ourselves and others that has almost no universal properties when based on things that the world has birthed. The system can be fixed when we forget about looking at ourselves and developing our bodies, minds, wardrobes, wallets, and start to look with eyes that see from a larger perspective. Let me ask you something.. was love created by the world? By people? By earth?

No, love was created by God. Love is the ONLY universal truth that anyone should look at anything with. Oddly enough in its own kind of twisted way the one way to define the undefinable is by applying this universal undefiable truth to it. Ok I know all of this looks like gibberish.. but if we can agree that our identities are undefinable and everchanging.. and love is also undefinable and everchanging.. there lies a definite and almost undenyable corralation.

So therefore.. when anyone asks who you are, what you're about, where you fit in or the car you drive.. you need not respond with a plethora of fancy words that you think can capture your 'essence' all it takes is one word, love.

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